Friday, August 17, 2007

friday, I'm in love

One of my customers and I have this thing, where we'll often have a conversation, which is interjected with song titles which go along with what we're talking about.

Does that make sense?

The one that stands out would be the days of the week......
I don't like Mondays,
Outlook for Tuesday.....

It's kind of silly, and the guy who sits in the other desk in the area always rolls his eyes when we get on a roll.... we go off on absolute tangents all the time. I appreciate it alot!

I was talking to someone else yesterday about the "click" which happens between two people. You start talking to someone, and you have that instant rapport with them.
I always find myself getting excited when I feel that.
It's a buzz.
A high.
The possibility that there is a 'kindred spirit' there that you may be able to bounce ideas around with.

This particular person had told me a while ago that when he goes out, he doesn't tend to talk to strangers at all. If he's in a bar, he'll sit and watch. I got kind of sad when I started to think about that one. Partly because this is a person who's conversation I value a great deal. I felt sorry that people weren't getting to experience his intelligence and all that he has to offer others.

I told him that yesterday, and I really hope that he took it in the spirit that I meant it.

At the same time... when I asked if it was because they were just very comfortable with life the way it was - they have a close group of friends, and doesn't actually feel the need for more. He related immediately to that.
I do understand. Life is incredibly busy, and it is hard to actually make the time and to put in the effort that is required to build those relationships. I can't deny that.
But - I've always been one of those people who has found that one can't have too many friends.

That's not to say that I open up to anyone and everyone.

I don't.
I'm very picky when it comes to having deep conversations and close relationships.

BUT... I guess I've been on the other side often enough to know that there are incredibly good people out there who don't have the friends that they need. People who have moved. Who are trying to start over. It takes a huge amount of effort for them and I know how much I value people who will make the effort and take the time to get to know me and befriend me.

If we settle, become comfortable and somewhat compliant we don't know what relationships we may miss out on. Those 'kindred spirits' just waiting to be embraced into our worlds.

I guess I want to encourage everyone to sometimes step out of their comfort zone, to make sure that there aren't people around us who are in desperate need of a friend, a smile, an encouraging word.

It doesn't take much to make someone feel appreciated and worthwhile... and in all honesty.... it's something that we don't seem to be very good at doing.

I guess it reminds me of that quote from St Francis of Assisi.

"Preach the gospel at all times, and if you have to, use words."

1 comment:

mreddie said...

Very good words there and I especially like the quote - so true. ec