Previous post thoughts....

We were talking about whether it was actually Godly to flirt?! Opinions people?
And then, the classic question... how does one go about finding someone? And is it our job to hunt, or do we keep busy, and trust that God will do His thing? hehe.
I'll share my opinion later. I'm most curious as to what others think.

Mella said...

Excellent question, CJ..."/*

My first reaction is that it can be - as long as "to flirt" is defined as to exude interest in another person in a charming and loving way, without resorting to sexual innuendo, etc. (Don't know if that entirely makes sense, just came off the top of my head...)

I guess, in thinking about it - our flirting "/* be Godly, because everything we do should be an act of worship and for the glory of God...even our interactions with others.

I don't see any reason why touching someone's arm or giggling (excessively, perhaps) or hinting that you're interested in someone can't be done in a Godly manner. =)


As far as finding someone goes...I wish I had more of an answer than "trust" and "patience."

A good friend of mine from college has been a prime example of waiting on the Lord for the love of her life. She'll be thirty soon, and has only recently met the man she's going to marry - after turning down several, not because she wasn't interested, but because God told her they weren't right.

Wow. Long rambling response. Hope it made sense! =)


NEO said...

CJ - I think God nudges people in each others direction, he leaves the rest to us.

Taken me a while to get back to this one.....

I totally agree with your definition Mella. I'm not sure that society quite agrees, but that's pretty much how I see it. A way of showing interest, I guess with the intention of really seeing where things may lead?

I know it's all about walking in faith, but I don't think we're meant to just sit back waiting for God to plonk the boy on our front door step. I don't know many guys who would find their way!
So - I think it is important that we are active, though not in a "hunt" mode - if that makes sense.
But then it also involves the process of us becoming a suitable mate as well. Preparing our hearts, minds and I guess becoming more comfortable with who we are, and aware of what is important to us in our future spouse.

I have moments where I wonder if I'm not too set in my ways now? There are certain ways that some things should be done! hehehehe. No, seriously. I do look at my brother who got married when he was 23, and see how he and Tess have almost grown up together, which is so precious. And I wonder if that would be easier? No regrets about me not having done it back then.... just reflecting on the different processes that each person faces at a different age.

So, as I embark on the whole turning 30 thing, I'll continue to be active, doing the things that I enjoy, and maybe. Just maybe I'll bump into the person that God has picked out for me.

Kind of leads me to another questions..... Is there only one person out there for each of us. Or could it be that we woul dbe well suited with several different people, but timing is everything?
What do you think?

OH.... and all of this kind of stems from back when I read the book "Finding Mr Right" by Stephen Arterburn and Dr Meg Rinck. Interesting book.
Side note - it also has the additional notes:"10 Ways to become Mrs Right" :)

I'm working on it!